Parenting; Remoulding the child

Nowadays children are immersed in a culture of disrespect: for parents, teachers, and one another. They learn it from television, even on the Disney Channel , where parents are portrayed as clueless, out-of-touch or absent. They learn it from celebrities or the Internet. They learn it from social media. They teach it to one another. They wear T-shirts emblazoned with slogans like “I’m not shy. I just don’t like you.”
The challenge of raising children today is different from 30 or 50 years ago. Back then popular culture supported the authority of parents. Kids are not born knowing how to be respectful or hardworking. They have to be taught.

Multiple lines of evidence, including cohort studies now demonstrate that disrespectful children are more likely to grow up to be anxious and depressed, three times more likely to be overweight, more likely to be fragile, less healthy and less creative, compared with respectful children.
But don’t give up hope for I also see children who are courteous, respectful, happy and confident. Same race, ethnicity and household income. But the parents are different, and they parent differently.

Here are some tips to get it going;
Require respectful behavior at all times. It’s OK to disagree.
It’s never OK to be disrespectful. Prioritize the family.
Instead of boosting self-esteem, teach humility. Fight the cultural imperative to be “awesome.”
Moreover, no screens when you are with your child. Put your cellphone away.
No electronic devices at the dinner table. Teach the art of face-to-face conversation.
Govern your children’s use of social media, television and any device with a screen.
If you’re going to make a change, don’t be subtle. Sit down with your children and explain that there are going to be some changes in this household: changes in how we talk, in how we behave, in how we treat one another. It is possible to create a culture of respect, although it isn’t easy, but it can be done.

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