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Re-ASSESSING RELATIONSHIPS

Few months ago, I made a prayer; "Dear God, take away anything or anybody that is not serving purpose in my life from me". This was an INTENTIONAL request. And I'm still getting results. Have you ever wondered why a person that was once close and loving to you suddenly drifts apart? Even when you try to reach out to this person to find out what the issue is, they drift farther away without a cogent reason? Hey! Learn to let people be, especially when you are at Peace with yourself. Sometimes the trash takes out itself. And that is a huge favor to you. It gets to a point where you have to be intentional about the people around you. How much do you pour into these people? How much do you receive back? Do you still feel empty around these people? Is there a balance? Once in a while, re-assess your relationship with people. Ask questions like; 1. Why is this person still in my space? 2. What do I expect from this person? 3. Are my expectations being met by this person? You ar

HAPPILY NEVER AFTER (the end)

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I sat at that spot for what seemed like an eternity. I knew my marriage was over. I just did not feel it was worth fighting for. I could never forgive Ifemi for impregnating another woman no matter what I must have done to him. He promised me for better or worse. I stood up eventually with the tears still streaming uncontrollably down my face, walked to the wardrobe and started packing my things. My mother in law came to stand by me and advised me not to go. She kept saying I should not make this mistake. I should not give up on my marriage but to fight for it. She kept going on and on but I totally ignored her. When I was done packing about two boxes, I turned to her and said thank you. I picked my boxes and dragged them to the sitting room. Ifemi was still sitting there, I saw a momentary surprise on his face at the packed boxes but otherwise, he just looked at me and shook his head. That took my anger to another level, I had planned to just walk by but I turned to him an

HAPPILY NEVER AFTER 7

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The sudden knock on the door was the jolt that brought me back to my senses. Seriously? I couldn't believe I just kissed another man so deeply. I always believed that Ifemi was my one and only. Wale was so angry at the distraction. The way he shouted, who is that? kind of made me laugh. I tried to gather my wits around me and compose myself and the little dignity I have left. He went to the door and I wondered who he was discussing with but I was not kept in suspense for too long as one of the prettiest ladies I have ever seen walked into the door. One of those women you just meet and you instantly feel inadequate and unsure of yourself. She had so much class and poise and when she said, " hello, I am Tumi, Wale's fiancé and you are? It took me a while to recover and not to let the shock I was feeling register on my face. I am Mrs Ibukun Babalola, your fiancée and I work together and he has never stopped talking about how great you are. I cast a quick glance at

Happily "never" after part 6

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Over the next few weeks, Ifemi and I made efforts to get our marriage on track. It seemed like we had drifted apart for too long and we had gotten used to doing things separately. I tried to put things to bed with Wale by discussing the hug and kiss with him but immediately I raised the issue, he just brushed it aside. I just concluded he probably just got carried away or maybe he did not even plan to kiss me anyway. Why make it such a big deal? I began to reduce our lunch dates though and hubby started coming to take me to lunch once in a while. Every thing was getting so rosy and I was having the time of my life in my marriage, until one day.... Ifemi went jogging that Saturday morning and left his phone at home. Out of boredom, I just started going through his phone. It had been so long since I checked his phone because it was always so boring. I was not prepared for what I saw. There was an unfamiliar name on his WhatsApp chat. Ifemi did not usually have female friends so seeing t

Happily "never" after part 5

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After a while I stopped feeling miserable. Maybe it had to do with the fact that I was not bottling up so much anymore. Wale had a great listening ear and could listen to my problems all day. Ifemi kept on giving me the worst attitude for another month and after a while I began to ignore him. After over 2 months of wasting so much food, I stopped cooking for him. In fact I stopped doing anything for him. We lived like strangers. It was such a surprise that we still slept in the same bed. We hardly said hello to each other. I preferred to even stay in the office late and gist with Wale. We had lunch and dinner together and I just went home to sleep most days. Wale even advised me that men were not that difficult and if Ifemi sees that his actions were no longer affecting me, he would change and that is exactly what happened. After about two weeks of ignoring Ifemi, he came home one night and asked me to make dinner for him. I smiled in my mind and went to make him dinner. We ate toget

Happily "never" after part 3

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HAPPILY EVER AFTER 3 I woke up with a smashing headache and confusing thoughts. I looked around and there he was, sitting quietly by my hospital bedside lost in thoughts. I quickly closed my eyes and remembered all I was thinking about before my accident. I was going to sneak out tomorrow morning to go remove the IUD before our doctor's appointment. Wait, I don't even know how long I have been out for. I have to check my phone at least to check the date. I opened my eyes and he saw me. I wish I could freeze that moment. The joy in his eyes, the smile on his face was priceless. How could I have made this man I love so much sad these past years, waiting earnestly for a child I purposely did not give him. How will he ever trust me again. If there is one thing I know about Ifemi, he never tolerates lies. He stood up and gave me a very big kiss on the lips. The doctor came in at that moment and assured us everything is fine and we can go home in another day or two. I had been out 

Diary of a single Ibo girl part 15

"Happy Anniversary babe", I felt someone nibble my ears as I struggled to open my sleepy eyes. " Hmmm ", I had mumbled as I stretched over to the other side of the bed. " Wakey wakey sunshine", Mike had tickled me back to reality. I smiled as I met his gaze. Chai!! My fine China. He held a bottle of fine wine over my face. "Nna, what are we celebrating kwanu"? I had asked in a mimicked ibo accent. " Nne, we are celebrating love o" he had answered in same manner. We both laughed. I was now seated on the bed, facing him directly. He moved closer to me and held my hands, his gaze never leaving mine. "It's 6months today since you came into my life and you've brought me nothing but happiness... I love you with everything I live for" A tear dropped off his eye. I smiled. I probably had taught him how to drop tears when being emotional. Lol. This man loves me shamelessly. "It's actually 5months and 3weeks o.